Attunement: How Securely Attached People Develop Intimacy

Heidi Priebe
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I (James) believe this is one of the most comprehensive and understandable descriptions of attunement you will find anywhere on the internet. Slow it down to .75 speed, take some notes and let it sink in.

You will learn about what Heidi Priebe calls attunement. Attunement is the interpersonal flow of being present and curious with another human being in real time. It is the key ingredient to developing intimacy.

Priebe suggests that if you were attuned to as a child, you will know how to attune to another person, whether that is a friend, a child, or a partner. However, if you were mis-attuned to while you were growing up, you will have an insecure attachment, and you will need to learn attunement. The good news is that, because of the brain’s plasticity, that is possible.

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