The Book of Forgiving: The Fourfold Path for Healing Ourselves and Our World

Desmond Tutu, Mpho Tutu
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Because we are human, some of our interactions will go wrong, and then we will hurt or be hurt, or both. Forgiveness is the way we mend these tears in the social fabric. In this liberating book, Archbishop Tutu and his Anglican priest daughter claim that forgiveness is the greatest gift we can ever give ourselves, and outline a four-step path to set our interactions right. A few years ago, I (James) took approximately eight months to slowly walk the path the Tutus prescribe. I told my story, named the hurt, granted forgiveness and then chose whether to renew or release the relationship(s). It freed me to move on heroically, not as a victim, with clearness, kindness and confidence. Honestly, if you have an unresolved relationship with anyone that is causing you deep pain, I can suggest no better resource!

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