The Connected Life #169: The Power of Embracing Our Messiness

Justin and Abi Stumvoli
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Connection With
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In this episode, podcast hosts Justin and Abi address the fear we all have of being a fraud, being unworthy of love, not being good enough and other ways we feel we are letting humanity down simply by being us.

We desperately want to belong, to be chosen, to matter. This paralyzes us with performance anxiety and perfection, and incites us to project an image of ourselves that hides who we truly are. Justin and Abi argue that it is the people who acknowledge their mess who are liberated. I (James) resonate with this message. As I have started being more authentic, I have found out how many other people want a safe place to share their own messiness. This pulls people in – and creates a whole community that wants to open up to each other.  

We don’t need to take ourselves so seriously. Come laugh with Justin and Abi.

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