The Sex Talk You Never Got: Reclaiming the Heart of Masculine Sexuality

Sam Jolman
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Guys, this book is for us! I (James) recommend it to any man who stumbles across this website. (Of course, it is for women too!)
Men today are starved for sexual formation. They've been failed by parents, churches, and culture alike, leading to widespread shame, confusion, and brokenness in the area of sexuality.
In our sex-saturated world, it might seem surprising that men need more talk about sex. But the reality is that sexuality is one of the most neglected aspects of men's lives. Confession here. I did not do a good job of teaching my kids about sex (little more than an anatomy lesson or a purity lecture, if anything at all). I didn’t have clear thinking and a vibrant expression of wildly good God-given sexuality at the time. In The Sex Talk You Never Got, therapist Sam Jolman helps men reconnect their God-given sexuality with innocence, awe, and joy, and shows readers how to celebrate--instead of struggle against--the gift of sexual desire.

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