Win Today #411: How Unhealed Wounds Can Sabotage Your Life and What You Can Do About It

Chuck DeGroat, Christopher Cook
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In this episode Christopher Cook and licenced therapist and spiritual director Chuck DeGroat go underneath the hood of the issues that keep us stuck and estranged from the best version of who we have been designed to be.

They talk about why we are stuck, often feeling like we are on a hamster wheel and unable to get off for fear of losing everything. In the process we live in pain, blame, and addiction. We don’t realize that we are disconnected, and we don’t know why we are depressed and have stomach pain and can’t sleep at night. James and I (Claire) can relate.

We think life on the hamster wheel is all there is, and DeGroat insists that it is not. He landed himself in a Mexican hospital before he realized he needed to pay attention to the dashboard of his life to see what was going on under the hood.

He also describes a deep sense of betrayal he experienced and the reaction of his nervous system to that betrayal, and how he moved from a reactive phase to a more reflective and grounded place. A very helpful discussion.

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