The Connected Life #55: Keys to Becoming A Great Friend

Justin and Abi Stumvoli
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In this episode Justin and Abi talk honestly about the messiness, drama, and sometimes painful endings of friendships. They also give a significant list of practical suggestions on how to receive and give love to our friends.  

Their advice is very concrete. For example: Accept the seasonal nature of some friendships; during hardship show up at a friend’s house with a hug; listen deeply to casual comments, for they give clues to the things your friend most longs for; be good at vulnerability because your friends also want to give to you. Justin and Abi end their talk with great “homework” that will help us do life well with others.  

I (James) determined some immediately doable items to strengthen my friendships. I commend this talk to anyone wanting a practical refresher on what it takes to be a good friend.

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