Scary Close: Dropping the Act and Finding True Intimacy

I (Claire) love Donald Miller’s writing. In this book, he takes readers on his yearlong journey to learn to abandon performance-based relationships and find real intimacy.

When fling after fling led Donald to a rich fantasy life, a lot of drama, and a long series of heartaches, he decided he'd had enough. He figured there must be a better way to soothe loneliness. Might there be a way to find love without having to put on a show?

Donald realized that his default “control freak” mode and “successful workaholic” mode had serious drawbacks. But even after finding the right girl, Donald found that the alternatives to his default modes were not just hard to do; they were hard to imagine. This book shows us how he began to be able to imagine them, and then to live them.

This very readable book is especially helpful for guys who want to imagine a hope-filled future and an authentic (scary close) relationship with their partner.